“Cooking is ‘girls’ work. Taking out the garbage is ‘boys’ work.”
NFGGO Comment:
When “boys” stop eating then cooking will be “girls” work, and when “girls” stop having trash to be disposed of then taking out the garbage will be “boys” work. Until then, unfortunately it’s all everybody’s work.
Featured Story 6/10/09:
All Flirt – No Clue
I know this is not a new or even recent story, but it still baffles me, so I thought I would put it out there. There was a guy who would flirt with me all the time for months. He was always around me, we hung out, went on walks, talk to for hours. Our attraction was so obvious that mutual friends actually commented on it. Both men and women alike said he really liked me and asked what was going on between us.
The answer was nothing! Though I still don’t have a clue as to why not! I mean not so much as holding hands! Occasionally, he would put his hand on my back to guide me through a door or offer me his jacket, but, for crying out loud my dad would do that!
I finally asked him when he was going to ask me out. (Yes, I know, but it was driving me crazy!) Well, he was like a bumbling dear in headlights. He said things like. “he didn’t know what I was talking about” and “he didn’t feel that way about me” and “where was this coming from.” Now, I know it wasn’t all in my head. Others saw, heard and even felt it. So what’s the deal?
NFGGO Comment:
This is a “phenomenon” that has been going on forever! Both men and women alike have experienced this situation.
Here's the thing for all of us to ask ourselves: Does it matter why someone doesn't ask you out? More importantly, would you have done something different? Even if you did, would it have helped? Can we "make" people who flirt with us ask us out?
Sometimes people are just flirts; that is their comfort zone, they really don't want anything more ... at least not yet or not with us. Sometimes they don't even know it, it's their second nature. Whatever the reason, that's there thing to discover, just as what is going on with us is our thing. A thought for everyone: Chances are, you have been on both sides of this situation. Been "baffled" and have "baffled" someone else. Maybe by exploring this we can discover more about ourselves. Isn't that the whole point, anyway?
More photos from the Los Angeles Launch Party 5/24/09:
Featured One Liner 5/24/09:
“You’re too pretty
to be funny.”
Featured Story 5/24/09:
Not a Lawyer or a Homemaker
Here’s my story. Before entering high school, my mom and I had to meet with the school counselor to set the curriculum for the year. There were set courses, such as English, Algebra, Biology, etc., and then one elective class that I could choose. I said I wanted to take “Home Ec.” My mom shot up quick as a dart and said something like “Oh, no. You’re not taking Home Economics.” Then to the counselor, “She’s strictly on a college prep program.”
Naturally, I took this to mean that college was not only expected (which I already knew and quite frankly welcomed) but that being a good homemaker took second place.
Not to mention that my mom was quite the progressive thinker in the family in expecting me to go to college at all, and also saying she wanted me to go on to become a lawyer. Paradoxically, I was also expected to do the “girl’s work” of cooking and cleaning.
SO, imagine my surprise almost 15 years later, when, in a conversation, my mom told me that sending me to college was not intended for me to have a career but was meant to be a “safety net” just in case my husband left me, became ill, or, dare I say it, not get married. That way, I would have the “sheepskin” so I could get a job, but only if I had to, due to some unfortunate occurrence.
Now that’s Crazy Talk!
Nevertheless, for whatever reasons, my mom (and dad) made sure I got an education and became self sufficient. I don’t have to be afraid of not being able to support myself (even though I never did become a lawyer).
And, of course, I can cook (which I actually like and am told I'm pretty good at) and clean (which I still do NOT like but do anyway; though not very good at it), and I still can't make a dress, but can buy any kind I like!
NFGGO Comment
Guess it just goes to show, we all have our internal struggles. Some we win, some we lose and sometimes we just have to call it a draw. But if we can all start to identify the Crazy Talk, maybe we can win more and lose less. And that will help us all. That’s what NFGGO is all about!
